What is DDLG?

DDLG stands for “Dadddy Dom Little Girl”. Perhaps not a true description of what it actually is. Simply put, a subcategory of BDSM. Where the “DD” assumes a dominant, or caring role, while the “LG” takes the role of someone more submissive or youthful perhaps.

As with all things. There’s a huge, very varied spectrum that differs greatly across the board. Whoever you speak to about this topic, everyone will have their own versions of what it entails.

There’s lots of acronyms that can be confusing if you’re just diving into the world of this. Some examples: DDLG, CGL, ABDL, MDLB. We’ll explain what all of these mean further down.

We’ll start off with explaining the roles of this sort of relationship.

DD / MD

Daddy Dom / Mommy Dom is very generic. We’ll refer to both as Daddies in this section for ease of reading. Maybe it shouldn’t be labelled as “Dom”. A Dom typically is someone who is stern, has a strict set of rules, dishes out punishments.

Daddies are generally a lot more caring, loving, sweet, and kind natured with their littles (LG/LB). They are protective and strive to direct littles down the right path. Whether offering advice, sharing knowledge, and just nurturing them. Of course, some are strict too. But only because they always want what’s best for them.

Some Daddies don’t have strict bone in their body or even refer to themselves as a dom. Many are quite often pushovers. Which is also fine! As I said above, the spectrum varies widely. Their one and true role should always be to nurture their little, offer a guiding hand when needed, and just make sure they are there for them.

Some refer to it as a parental type role, which, given the main objective does fit. Hence the name Daddy. Despite the name, this is NOT like a Daddy & Daughter. Some basic rules might be made, eating, drinking correctly, study, work, etc. Following such rules are often rewarded in some dynamics.

Littles / LG / LB / Middles

What is one? Just like the dom title. When people hear the word little, they instantly think of a little child. This is not always the case.

Of course, some (like people not involved in a dynamic) still have that inner child regardless of adult age.

To put it simply, Littles just want to be cared for, protected, and guided. Is that everyone? Even if you’ve not heard of DDLG. Everyone wants to feel like that. It’s just littles express it a little more. Some Littles are just into cute stuff. They like cutesy things, it makes them happy.

Now, lots of littles are submissive by nature, some aren’t at all. But in general they like to please their caregiver. Following simple rules, knowing they’ve done a good job, and being told about it. It’s a feel good feeling, right? When someone tells you that you’ve done something good?

Other littles are “bratty”, they like to tease, push boundaries, and be a little bossy. These are just personality traits.

Parts of the spectrum include something called “age play”. This is when a little defines their little age. This could range from a baby to 11 years old. Middle’s, are upto 17 years old.

Some littles don’t even have an age, which is perfectly fine! Again, everyone has their own version of what DDLG is about. In fact, even if you’re not into DDLG, I 100% guarantee that some of the things mentioned do also apply to you!

Little Space

Many littles like to enter something called little space, all for varying reasons. A special headspace where they are sort of taken away from realty for a short time. Similar to when you really throw yourself into something, you’re focused, lose focus on the outside world. You enter your own mind, it feels great. Why? The brain releases certain chemicals, and almost feels intoxicating at times.

Not everyone enter’s little space, again, that’s okay! Those who do might find comfort in watching cartoons, cuddling stuffies, or even just become really submissive.

Daddy Space

YES! This can be a thing also. It’s often assumed that Daddies or Caregivers are always in Daddy space. That’s wrong. This sometimes gives Daddies more of an urge to protect, care, or nurture their little.

These headspaces don’t happen all the time, you certainly don’t need to be in that space for you to be a DD/CG or a Little.

Sometimes, you’ll come across a switch. This term in BDSM simply means the dom switches to a sub, and the sub can switch to a dom. This can happen in the DDLG dynamic also. Again, everyone likes to be cared for, protected, safe, and to be wanted. It’s not for everyone, but it most certainly is a thing.

DDLG can be both sexual and non-sexual.

This doesn’t mean it’s Daddy or Mommy doing sexual things with their son or daughter. It’s being under or in control with a consensual partner. Littles aren’t always littles during sexual encounters.

I mean, how many times have you heard of other people NOT in this dynamic still call their partner “Daddy”, “Please Daddy”, “Am I a good girl, Daddy”? It’s the feeling of an authoritative figure. Someone in power. Someone controlling you.

Daddies or Caregivers, do not sexual children. This is not pedophilia. These are all consenting adults.

Some littles do age regress also. Don’t confuse this with ageplay. Aggression can be the result of a traumatic past. It’s also actually used in therapy and a way of coping, dealing with, and healing from certain experiences.

Aftercare

Aftercare is important during any sort of “scene”. For example: Entering little space opens you up to being more vulnerable. While in the zone, this might not matter too much. But afterwards, back to reality, you have time to reflect. It’s important to be comforting, kind, and caring during this period. We’ll touch up more on this in another blog post.

Pet Play is also a form of DDLG, another side branch from BDSM, Dom / Sub / Master dynamics.

There is so, so much more to write about what is DDLG, but we’ll leave it there for now. Here’s a short list of the acronyms with a description.

• DDLG /LB – Daddy Dom Little Girl / Little Boy
• MDLG /LB – Mommy Dom Little Girl / Little Boy
• CGL – Caregiver Little
• ABDL – Adult Baby Diaper Lover